“I can’t believe how much that resentment was holding me back from the success I knew “After working with over 200 coaching clients in the tech, design, nonprofit, and real estate industries, I noticed that at the heart of every conflict, energy drop or creative block was resentment. It could be as simple as an annoyance with a colleague or a growing frustration with a client or as serious as self-sabotage in every step.”
- Lauren LeMunyan, The SpitFire Coach
What if your life were free of resentments?
What would you be able to accomplish?
How would you show up differently?
If you’re like most people, you may think that annoyances and frustrations are just part of working in an office or being in a relationship. From gossip at the water cooler to eye rolls in the board room, resentments are as common as cubicles in the workplace.
How much time and energy have you spent sighing, projecting, trash-talking, worrying or losing sleep as a result of your resentments?
If you answered “too much”, today is the day for change.
If you’re unsure about resentment’s impact on you, think about this…
If creativity and innovation need space, trust, and freedom to flourish, how is resentment impacting your big-picture planning, problem-solving, and collaboration? What might you be missing or overlooking?
what is resentment?
According to Dictionary.com resentment is a bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly. At the root, resentment is compounded expectations and ideas of perfection that we place on ourselves and others that then impacts our emotions, physical body and connect to spirituality/flow/outer power.
Resentments can show up in our everyday activities or when recalling past events and situations. It can show up in different magnitudes and affect us differently.
Why are resentments so powerful?
Within all of us, we have four dimensions: mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. Each person leads with a certain dimension based on their preference. I lead with a mental dimension, so I’m really good at having quick responses and finding logic in having resentments towards other people. For people who lead with an emotional dimension, they can take resentments extremely personal and feel like they are reliving their trauma when thinking about past resentments. With a physically-leading dimension, the resentment can feel like a stabbing, heavy weight, suffocation, or paralysis. On the spiritual-leading side, there may be a deep questioning or confusion to why the resentment is happening and how it relates to greater purpose.
Resentments sit in our mental dimension where our brains love to tack snapshots of memories and fill in the blanks with story lines and assumptions. Our brains are machines of information, but can only store so much at one time, so it relies on past histories or experiences to complete the picture. If any of that inserted information has trauma or ill-feelings, it can trigger a sensation in our emotional dimension which then creates physical pain, discomfort and stress. That stress becomes a shut door on spirituality, creativity, and flow.
If we break it down simply, resentments live in our mental dimension and send signals to our emotional dimension which create physical pain/discomfort/stress that challenges our spiritual flow and creativity.
How are resentments impacting businesses?
Resentments create assumptions, enhance fear, prevent us from taking needed risks, stop us from trusting and making connections. From a business perspective, resentments are costing businesses a lot of money. Think about how many key people have left companies over resentments. Think about how many ideas and solutions never saw the light of day because of resentments. If innovation is a core value or mission, you need to be releasing resentments.
How are resentments impacting relationships?
All relationships break down because of unmet expectations. When resentments are triggered, they thrive off of presumed expectations that are never communicated. Resentments from past encounters leak into current relationships and poison the well with fear, assumptions, and accusations. Imagine if you could start fresh in every relationship. What would be different?
So how do you get rid of these resentments?
Using a method inspired by 12-step programs and perfected by Rebekah Weintraub, Founder and Coach of Release Resentments, The SpitFire Coach supports you through process of recognizing, reframing and releasing the weight, assumptions and expectations around your resentment. We focus on getting to the root of the resentment and exposing the facts, so that you can shape how you want that person/situation to work for you in the future. Turn your blocks into steps to your success and happiness.
In 90-minutes or less you will feel lighter, freer and more inspired.
Ready to release? Schedule a resentment release session today.