Episode 186: Flexing Your Truscles

If we want to build up our biceps and get stronger, we knew that a few reps won't turn us into a body builder. Yet, when we think of building trust, we expect it to just appear with the other person. Imagine if we treated our truscles (trust muscles) like our physical muscles. 

In today's episode, Lauren breaks down what's really needed to build and maintain boundaries and foster healthy relationships.

Referenced book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glober Tawwab

Lauren's Website: www.spitfirecoach.com

More Resources on Trust; www.trustmuscle.com

Merch: www.spitfirecoach.com/merch 

About Lauren LeMunyan, CEO, Spitfire Coach

As the Founder and CEO of Spitfire Coach, an adaptive leadership development firm, Lauren has guided thousands of individuals and organizations toward transformative growth and success. Her impact as Executive Director of three global trade associations showcased her strategic vision and effective decision-making. Lauren is a Master Certified Coach (MCC) and serves as the Innovative Mindset facilitator for Capital One's Catapult program, where she fosters innovation and change in diverse-owned business owners. Through her books, podcast and YouTube channel, she shares invaluable insights and practical tools, inspiring overloaded professionals to achieve life-changing results.

Episode 153: The Painful Truth with Dr. Stacy

Need a reset before the new year?

Before you start writing out your goals and resolutions, take a listen to today's episode with Dr. Stacy Mobley and hear what you really should be focusing on as you move forward.

Episode 152: Relaunching from a Performance Improvement Plan

In today's episode, hear about how a client went from being in fear of losing their job to exceeding expectations and propelling a project forward in just four weeks.

Lauren shares the keys to unlocking confidence at work even when you're under an HR microscope.

Episode 151: Intentionally Design Your Life in 30 Minutes

Wish you could have more opportunities, more abundance, more success in your life? In today's podcast, Lauren shares her daily practice and framework for intentionally designing her business and life. It's what's led to her doubling revenue in her best year with less stress and effort.

Episode 149: The Magical Joy of Poo

Today we are talking about a very serious topic, one that happens to all of us. That's right, today we are talking about poop.

We're talking about poop because poo happens to everyone in life. And when we can acknowledge it, it allows us to have a less stressed environment and day and it allows us to handle conflict and high friction situations.

Now, poo at its form at the purest form is a waste product. It's a waste byproduct. It's the things that don't work for us, that compound in our intestines and our colon.

I don't need to give you the biology lesson, but I want to use it more as a metaphor because it can help you offload that stress in dealing with things that don't go away and when dealing with uncertainty and to give you a little more joy and levity.

I shared this with my client and I think I might have mentioned this in past episodes. My client was bound very tightly and he used to get very set off in traffic situations. If someone didn't use a turn signal, if someone cut him off, if someone was driving too slow in the left lane, he would be so frustrated.

I said to him, “Well, I want you to imagine that the other person has to poop really bad, really bad. And that is the reason why they're driving so erratically.”

He stopped in his tracks and started laughing. The mere thought of someone having to rush to the bathroom was more than he could deal with.

In this instance we created a shared human experience. So whether or not the story is true doesn't really matter; what mattered was his energy was preserved.

You don't have to get into the other person's story to make up your own one that works for you. Imagine the other person doing the behavior you don't deem appropriate or creating conflict and inconvenience and add a poop element.

If someone is doing being inconsiderate and they cut in front of someone in the grocery store line, imagine saying to yourself (don't do this out loud)
Wow, that person really has to poop. And that's why you need to go in front of me.”

This allows you to not take it personally.

It allows you to have a little fun with it. Now, imagine that you've had a not so great encounter. This is the next evolution of thinking someone has to poop.

I want you to imagine that you are a monkey in the wild and someone has really irked you. I want you to imagine that you are the monkey, and you are throwing your poo at the other person.

What does that feel like?

Now don't actually throw poop because you can get into a lot of trouble, and it's really gross. But the visual of you just like I'm gonna throw my poo at you, it's funny, right?

I mean, poo is just one of these things that it's fun to say. It makes your face contort, and it's really funny. And it allows you to feel like your animalistic self.

You're defending yourself with the only thing you know how to do: grabbing your poo and shoving it in their face or throwing it at them. You know, you got to do what works. Otherwise, you can be in your own shit.

You are literally creating your own shit by not having a way to offload this frustration, this friction. So the way to offload that emotional byproduct is to actually have a process and a system to use it.

Where are you going to put it? Do you want to put it over there? Cool. Do you want to flush it down? Awesome. You want to throw it at somebody? That's up to you.

So poo is your friend. We can love poo. Oh poo, I love Pooh bear. Oh, wait, is Pooh bear Winnie the Pooh? Is he really about poop? Oh no. It just totally blew my mind.

Anyway, I want you to think about where you can add in these little comedic reminders as you're dealing with high-stress or frustrating situations where you typically lose your cool or feel annoyed at everyday life.

Where can you incorporate little Pooh sayings? It's like little turds. Oh my god, I can't believe I'm talking about this on a podcast. But this is great.

So, where can you drop some potty wisdom and comedy to lighten your day? So someone is bugging you? Where can you incorporate a little poo reference?

See how that goes. I swear I know that sounds ridiculous. But I promise you it works. I've heard from multiple clients actually just talked about it on a client session about stepping in poo being filled with poo. Being backed up with poo, smearing it, and throwing it wrong like inner five roads.

You ever noticed that kids like you know when you're toddlers, you realize the power of poo and like they wipe it on the walls? There is power, so use it. I mean, don't actually use it. Use the figurative poo. Be like Winnie the Pooh and share the joy of poo.

I hope this was helpful, if not a little ridiculous, and maybe it made you giggle a little bit.